Comments on: CAN YOU JUST STOP MAINTENANCE PAYMENTS?

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 10:20:47 +0000

Really sorry, I don’t know Lx

By: Galen Melchior

Galen Melchior — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 10:10:39 +0000

Where can I find a lawyer to help me with my UK citizenship application?

By: fab feisty and fifty

fab feisty and fifty — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 07:50:18 +0000

l could do with some guidance actually.will emial you

saz x

By: Di Foden

Di Foden — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 04:40:27 +0000

It’s not you that isn’t good at divorce, it’s him. Grit your teeth and stand up to him. From behind a lawyer. xx

By: Imo

Imo — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 00:53:20 +0000

Oh that’s all bollocks !! I think you are doing fab x.x.x.

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 22:47:15 +0000

Oh no poor you – can’t you go to mediation and get it sorted pre DA as not great if you’re comletely divorced without a formal agreement i wouldn’t have thought Lx

By: Chic Mama

Chic Mama — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 22:36:16 +0000

A cheque sounds so ridiculous and difficult, I cannot understand why it should be so difficult for someone to support their children…and their ex wife who THEY cheated on. I’m sorry it’s so tough.
Your ex really has a problem with BB doesn’t he- is he hung up about the fact that you dated him? Jealous maybe?

I only blog about SOME of the crap going on in my life at the moment…it all sounds so unreal that I sometimes wonder if people think I’m writing a fictional novel.
Only today I was telling friends that when I last went to court the judge (female) was laughing saying that “we all know orders aren’t enforceable” What??? And fancy saying that in front of HIM. My husband,v soon to be ex,doesn’t pay anywhere near what has been ordered,apparently he has rights!!! He’s given me less than his rent this month…I have a huge house, acres of land,bills to pay & 5 children to feed- we need to move very soon but I have just had to agree to him getting decree absolute without any financial settlement sorted. I have no money left to fight this, so he wins!! Sorry don’t mean to keep ranting on here…finding it hard to write on my blog at the moment, just too much going on and far too painful. :0(
Take care. xx

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 18:59:15 +0000

I have already spoken to my lawyer and she doesn’t think it’s very easy to get out of the cheque scenario if that’s the way he chooses to pay me. Lx

By: louise

louise — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 18:41:45 +0000

I actually shouldn’t write anything, but of course I will! I was divorced in France, so obviously the laws are different – however the Frogs take maintenance payments seriously and X’s can land up in jail if they don’t pay …
Having to beg for your cheque is definitely NOT on so I think you should go back to your solicitor and explain that the situation is humiliating and that you want a standing order from the X (good for your credit rating too!) and if you are worried he won’t pay up then arrange to have your maintenance taken out of his salary – I think a magistrate can organise this.
Don’t worry about not being ‘good’ at divorce – none of us are – it is a shit thing to go through, BUT eventually things do calm down as most people realise that they cannot continue vendettas for ever.

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 17:54:12 +0000

Thanks Jon, well the settlement is on both the kids and me. Cheque scenario has gone on for the entire time and it’s a control thing I guess…..really bad. I know. Everyone says I should get it sorted but not really much I can do and at least he’s giving it to me still. Lx