Comments on: “EVERY OTHER WEEKEND” RULE

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 15:07:29 +0000

Well, it’s surprising that he doesn’t – my kids mention it to him from time to time, but the shit hasn’t hit the fan yet, anyway Lx

By: Vegemitevix

Vegemitevix — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 14:26:30 +0000

Sorry, my mistake I thought your ex did know about your blog.

By: stigmum

stigmum — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 10:55:12 +0000

For me, access is the hardest thing and sadly can’t tell you that I handled the new wife thing excellently, magnanimously…. My ex recently moved to Brighton. My son is way younger than your kids but the ex is already saying son should choose. Golly it makes me cross! Totally understand you not wanting your child to drive his siblings once he has his licence. Why do some fathers have such insane ideas????

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 07:29:48 +0000

Please rant. Thats the point. SO hard for you with new girlfriend and all those kids. AND yours are a lot younger than mine. Lxx

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 07:28:11 +0000

Yes. Not good. If you can avoid this situation, it’s so much less painful for everyone Lx

By: saz

saz — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 23:19:04 +0000

its seems from friends that 17 is the age they can assert their choice of where, who and when, or if…..regardless of 18 being the age of consent…l think its more about respecting the child’s wishes also…so l guess 17 is about right, after all having divorce,remarriage and another ‘parent’ foisted upon them is not their choice…so l do think that any childs opinion should be sought and respected…l cant think of anything worse that enforced visitation.

something l strive to avoid at all costs, (less to myself,hey ho) but thats another story, my choice…

By: Chic Mama

Chic Mama — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 22:41:46 +0000

You’ve said everything I feel. I hate that our weekends are mapped out months in advance, that I’m the one juggling their activities or still having to take son to his football matches on a Sunday when husband has the other four.
My husband lives an hour and a half away…nightmare. It has always been up to him to get them to his home though. I either take the children to station to meet him (his car can’t fit them all in even though girlfriend has a new car as well) or his parents have to drive as well. But then he only sees them for about thirty hours a month & in all honesty I don’t expect this will ever improve.
Sorry,didn’t mean to rant on your blog just you’ve got me going. Makes me so cross…I bet he wouldn’t have expected your son to drive his siblings as a newly qualified driver if still all together. I imagine mine will be exactly the same. x

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 22:30:10 +0000

My kids found out a very long time ago that I don’t play “doof doof” games with them – poker yes, monopoly no, lego no, the name game, maybe at christmas. Lx

By: Expat Mum

Expat Mum — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 22:09:36 +0000

Actually the Queenager can drive her sibs. It’s just other friends that she can only drive one of. Gulp. And here I am sitting dreaming of weekends off. As you know, the older two pretty much entertain themselves (or stay in their jammies all day in front of a screen), but the little guy still needs to be at least not totally neglected. Today I have spent hours playing board games with him and building Lego forts. When he told me he wanted me to play an imaginary action hero game that involved racing around the room making “doof doof” noises I tagged out and let the Ball & Chain take over. I know I shouldn’t say this but “Shoot me…”.

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 20:27:47 +0000

My ex doesn’t know about my blog…..after all this time. Oops. Lx