Comments on: EX HUSBAND TO REMARRY

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 17:06:24 +0000

Yes, it’s all changed again….good to hear from you – glad all going well with you Lx

By: ciara

ciara — Tue, 08 Dec 2009 16:51:17 +0000

wow, things have drastically changed since i last visited. i don’t understand what is going on in your ex’s head. hopefully he wises up. honestly though, i don’t think they’ll make it to next year (or whenever their wedding date is). i totally understand how you felt when you found out the new though. even though i’m remarried, when i found out my ex was having a child w his current gf, i was kind of pissed, hurt, etc.

By: http://savvysavingbytes.com/

http://savvysavingbytes.com/ — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 22:01:47 +0000

Holy moly, I go away for a few days and come back to find your ex marrying BB’s ex. I think your children will be okay. Kids always know who really cares about them. And I think you too will weather this weird storm. You’ve got survivor’s blood. And why not take the high road about it. Olive branches extended and accepted will be good for the children and keep you up on what’s happening. Oddly enough, after all I’ve read about about BB’s ex wife, my biggest sympathy is with your ex husband. I’m afraid I now see him as a “lamb being led to the slaughter.” Perhaps too dramatic a phrase, but you get the gist. My best to you…

By: Margot

Margot — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 22:58:25 +0000

Oh God, Lulu, what a lot of shite has landed on you. As always, you are dealing with it amazingly well. I wouldn’t offer any kind of olive branch either – it may well come back and slap you round the face.Distance, dignity and lots of love for your lovely children are all that’s required, I reckon. Sod the swimming pool and the solitaire. It’s all based on the wrong stuff. Sending you lots of love and support, even from a distance. Wish I was closer to give you a hug. M xxx

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 00:11:54 +0000

Bloody hell – that all sounds like an awful story…..Lx

By: louise

louise — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 19:14:41 +0000

My ex sailed off into the sunset with the New Ugly One (I thought men usually got a younger model that reminded them of their ex – not in his case! He swopped tall, elegant, intelligent and attractive me for short, dumpy, ugly and dim) … but I digress … she was a bitch to my children and used to say the most awful things about me to them. Fortunately they spent most of their time with me. I think if she already has three children, she won’t want yours too, so with a bit of luck it should work to your advantage. Ignore her but make sure you and the ex talk about your children and what is going on – otherwise children wise up fast and you get things like ‘Dad said it was okay’!

The ex and the NUO had a child together (no fool like an old fool), so once she got what she wanted, she calmed down a bit. Nearly two years ago the ex died in his sleep and although he and I got on well after the divorce, I hate him for disappearing at the age of 58 and the heartbreak it has brought to my children.

Sorry – this is a ramble and completely incoherent – I have got too many distractions at the moment!

You will get through it and don’t forget – what goes round, comes round!!

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 17:06:30 +0000

Thanks Jo – what was your different blog name just so I know who you are? That is v sad for you too and must be really difficult when even more kids involved – that’ll be next – another child! Lx

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 17:03:29 +0000

Thanks DD – hugs required. Lx

By: Dulwich Divorcee

Dulwich Divorcee — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 15:30:21 +0000

OMG!!! OMG!!! and, er, big hugs. All I can think of to say! xx

By: Jo

Jo — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 15:22:03 +0000

Hi L,
It’s been ages since I’ve read your blog and I felt so sad after reading this last post. My ex new his current wife before we got divorced. Less then 2 months after our divorce, he told me that their ‘circumstances’ had changed and they were now a couple (bollocks to that! – oopps sorry). She moved into our flat 3 months later in Jan 06. They’re now married, with their baby no.2 due feb. Did he move quickly, yes. Was I hurt that he threw me aside? Yes.
I was so angry and emotional with it all. Don’t even talk to me about an olive branch.
But I was careful not to be negative about them in front of my child. She has to feel comfortable being with them and she is. I do get a perverse kick out of referring to the new wife as the ‘step-mother’, reminds me of Cinderella or Snow White’s wicked witch.
But that being said, remember to let them waste their energy on being angry/frustrated. Your energy can be spent on much more important people such as YOU and your children.
I wish you lots of luck with the coming times.
Love jo
(used to be under a different blog name)