I met my ex husbands girlfriend the other day. I’ve bumped into her before and said a few trite words, but this time I actually had to have a drink with her. She has keys for my ex’s house so she had simply let herself in. I don’t know who was more surprised. Obviously, the situation is a little odd. There I was heating up a curry in the microwave, having just put my child to bed. My ex was just pouring me a glass of wine and I was sort of behaving in a slightly proprietorial manner, which was of course completely out of order. Yes, he used to be MY husband and yes they are MY child upstairs, but she was perfectly entitled to be a little put out that I had apparently moved in and was therefore ruining the already limited time she could spend with him.
We managed to have a perfectly civilised non-conversation – “how are you?” “how are the children?” bla bla bla…we were all uncomfortable.
She was perfectly lovely, but it is awkward and I don’t like it. I am not ready to feel happy about the face that another woman spends time with my children but I’m going to have to learn to get over it.