I believe that forgiveness, or lack thereof, has a much bigger impact on the forgiver than on the one forgiven. If we carry around emotional baggage, it’s on our backs. But genuinely putting it down involves taking responsibility for our own lives and happiness. It means having the courage to take action, to focus on what it is that we actually control, and face the potential upheaval that comes with the resulting change. – I’m not really at this point in my own life, but I want to be.

I agree on the forgetting – if we forget, we don’t learn. When something like a betrayal happens, there’s a lot to learn from – about ourselves and our partners. Forgetting almost seems like pretending nothing happened, and that can’t possibly be sustainable.