Comments on: HOW DID YOU FIND OUT YOUR PARTNER WAS HAVING AN AFFAIR?

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Wed, 11 May 2011 06:22:40 +0000

Blloody hell! Lx

By: fran

fran — Wed, 11 May 2011 00:25:03 +0000

Facebook. He got engaged to her before we even separated…Second affair. I divorced him.

By: Monty Heacock

Monty Heacock — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 06:51:18 +0000

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By: Kory Wilderson

Kory Wilderson — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 00:52:41 +0000

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By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 08:33:41 +0000

Kathryn, that is very reassuring – it is amazing though during the affair how much your mind refuses to really ‘see’ and once you know, so much that you weren’t prepared to face falls in to place Lx

By: Kathryn

Kathryn — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 08:25:23 +0000

I found a messsage on the computer – while he was actually with her – I am sure though that I already ‘knew’ – he had left me at our son’s sixth birthday party with his parents (who only visited once a year so they too thought it was odd) – the fact I had found make up that wasn’t mine in our car should also have had the alarm bells ringing (boy can I be dense at times!!) – anyway, 8 years later I now find myself happily married to the man I truely want to spend my life with – I couldn’t be happier

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 13:21:30 +0000

It’s that awful realisation that you want to know all the details and you don’t want to know any and yes, of course you want to know what she looks like, but now you do it just makes you want to kill her even more….the woman my husband had an affair with was older – I’d met her and I was horrified that she was prepared to get involved with a married man – how innocent was I? It’s not uncommon obviously. Just know that it is a journey you have to make. If you can forgive him eventually that would be great. You have to look into the future and work out if you can see him there – because a future without him isn’t going to be any easier – just different. Take one day at a time, try not to think too hard – I did WAY too much thinking and talking and not enough listening to my heart and my gut instincts.

By: Jay

Jay — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 12:02:59 +0000

So – i am in joburg by the way. Wish I could move to Cape Town. I finally found a picture of the OW. Man, it cuts deep. She is really gorgeous. How did everyone else feel? There are so many more downs than ups in this process and I still don’t know if I can live with this heartache.

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 16:19:06 +0000

No prob at all Jay – come back whenever you like – where about’s in SA? Was in Cape Town this summer Lx

By: Jay

Jay — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 07:16:08 +0000

Wow Sarah. thanks so much. some of that was hard to hear – like even if there was a problem at home, it’s no excuse. you are right and i am not ready to hear it. I live in South Africa by the way… isn’t the internet an amazing thing? I hope you don’t mind if i come back often for advice and support. Glad I found you guys.