“Married couples have more and better sex” according to the Church of England. “Contrary to popular perception, married people have much more sex”.
As my parents are briefly out of the country, I am going to mention sex in my blog. I try not to discuss sex too much because it makes all my friends feel sick, but how does the church know? Of course it (almost) goes without saying that if you are in a “loving relationship” (I hate that term) or you are happily married then the sex ought to be as good and as bonding as anything out there, but lots of my married friends seem to complain all the time about their sex lives and either pretend to be asleep a lot, or only do it on holiday or find other people to have sex with. One friend recently said that she would “rather eat a rat” than have sex with her husband. Whereas my single or divorced friends seem to be having loads of sex all the time and loving every minute of it (or is it just that they confuse sex with love I wonder?).
Alain de Botton once said “I’m interested in the modern suggestion that you can have a combination of love and sex in a marriage – which no previous society has ever believed”.
Whilst Madonna must be regretting saying the following:
“Your soul-mate is the person that pushes all your buttons – pisses you off on a regular basis. It’s not easy having a good marriage but I don’t want easy. I thank God every day that I married a man who made me think. That is my definition of true love.
I agree with Friedrich Nietzxche that it is “not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages”.
October 27th, 2008 at 9:46 am
I agree with you. Perhaps in the first few years of marriage, but once those kiddies have come along – forget it. (At least that’s what my friends tell me!)
October 27th, 2008 at 10:35 am
Single and regular sex? I wish.
October 27th, 2008 at 10:48 am
wow lulu. i remember my mother saying those exact words when i was about 17…never confuse sex and love..and marry someone you can talk to. marry your friend. because the sex wears off after a while. but at least you still have things to talk about and think about…madonna was kind of right about the thinking bit…i wonder what went wrong? (hah)..thats what my mother said anyway…marry your friend. xxx j oh word verification is pailmyt! (stalemate?)
October 27th, 2008 at 10:59 am
Mmmmm…very interesting…i think I will be careful an dponder on my response, less I am hoisted by my own petard! LOL…a thinker this one…
October 27th, 2008 at 11:09 am
Yes. Janelle, I agree, definitely marry your friend…sadly though my husband was my best friend, which makes it so much worse when they do something horrible to you. Lx
MUD!! This is not good. You either need to lower your expectations and have sex with the gay banker OR find yourself a FB (f*ck buddy) as my brother calls it…OR come out with me and all my married friends. ha ha Lx
FFF – your silence speaks volumes Lx
October 27th, 2008 at 12:57 pm
ah man. i know!!! makes it SO MUCH WORSE….aaaaagh. ow ow ow. xxxx
October 27th, 2008 at 12:59 pm
I’m just bloody glad I married a man who understands the notion of being too tired.. reverse psychology.. it makes him so much more attractive.
October 27th, 2008 at 3:08 pm
Your husband has worked it all out BM – v clever approach Lx
February 28th, 2011 at 10:26 pm
Anglo church, my experience they would not have a clue outside their own relationships.
I went to them for help & they force me to sign my baby away. When I met the babe 40 odd years
later, she was still blaming me. No one ever looked into what the Doctors were doing, arranging
young women to bear babes for sexy married couples!