Comments on: NOT SURVIVING DIVORCE AFTER ALL…..

By: Hannah

Hannah — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 17:35:28 +0000

Oh you poor thing – have all fingers and toes crossed it isn’t something bad

hope you’re ok

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:17:46 +0000

Course I don’t mind. Thanks for your support Lx

By: Chic Mama

Chic Mama — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 13:19:40 +0000

Your mind works the same way as mine. On overdrive. I’m sure you would have a good case if that’s what he’s trying to do. take care.

I hope you don’t mind but I have linked one of your posts to my latest post. ?
x

By: Mud

Mud — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 01:40:59 +0000

Totally agree about going to the lawyers. But I woudl also want to be in on any conversation he is having wiht the school. He can’t just decide to have discussions with them about your son without including you! Is he using this action as an emotional weapon?

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 23:52:50 +0000

Thanks Claire. Will do. No, when I am feeling rational I can’t believe that is what he is planning to do either Lx

By: Family Affairs

Family Affairs — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 23:51:49 +0000

Thanks Sharon. All good advice Lx

By: Sharon

Sharon — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 22:16:59 +0000

I agree with Anna. You have a legally binding arrangement and just because he has told you and mailed you to the effect that he’s not happy with it, in no way means he can just change it because he feels like it. Additionally, you MUST lodge the e-mail with your own lawyer and get your lawyer to draft (and send) a response. Then forget it! The courts have already made provision for your and your children’s needs until they leave school. Sorted. Your lawyer can help you draw a line in this.

It seems that this is the only area he feels he has any control over – and indeed this really silly situation of collecting a cheque etc is demonstration of that. Here’s a thought, get your lawyer, in his response to insist on a DD and you can relieve yourself of that stress.

Good luck. I know its good to talk, usually, but I don’t see why you have to talk to him about this.

By: Priness_L_88

Priness_L_88 — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:39:56 +0000

I can’t even imagine how worried you must be right now but for what it’s worth it sounds like he’s being a prize prat (I’m trying to be polite!)

By: Eclipse

Eclipse — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:31:38 +0000

Please talk to a solicitor or lawyer asap. This doesn’t sound like it’s going down the right way, although I am sure he isn’t planning on taking your son away. That would be cruel and exceptionally unfair to your youngest who obviously adores you and finds the whole situation distressing enough as it is. x

By: Anna

Anna — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:40:31 +0000

It sounds really absurd. I think that he is bluffing. Contact your lawyers – this is beyond talking it over or texting, or whatever else he likes to do. I agree with Nicola – it’s obvious that his new fiance is droning into his ear on a daily basis. He has no way out of maintaining you and the children. But a woman can make a man do and say crazy things (been there, done that) and they go along with it because they just want her to shut up. He’s chosen his lot, I am afraid, but it’s not your problem.