My kids had a good weekend with their father. They’ve been reporting back on how the progress is at their new house, which is being redecorated and they’re all sounding pretty pleased with how it’s going to be.
On Saturday, the children told me that my X and his fiance took all the children to watch the rugby at their local rugby club. Builder Bloke was also there. They were all downstairs (including his children), he was upstairs. My kids reported back that it was all a bit difficult. The kids all popped up to say “hi” to BB and then the fiance asked my daughter to get him to come downstairs to have a conversation. My daughter told me “I had to go and ask him and he said that he wouldn’t because he hasn’t talked to her for a month now and he prefers it like that.”
Perhaps somebody would like to tell me where the adults are here? Using the children as a go-between? Literally allowing them to be stuck in the middle? Not acceptable. Had I still been seeing BB, I may very well have been sitting upstairs too. With my children downstairs.
How bloody awful.
I am so well out of that situation it’s not true.
February 8th, 2010 at 3:57 pm
See its situations like that that reinforces your earlier decision to step away from the situation . Anyway what was your X doing letting your daughter do the message carrying for his fiance. Strikes me she wanted to create a little drama there….well out of it.
February 8th, 2010 at 4:35 pm
sounds like someone deserves a slap! bloody hell…don’t want tot get you wound up…but she is starting the way she means to go on eh?
complete curve ball here…but last week l attended a ’safeguarding children’ course…a minefeld and l didnt want to hear it all….but it suddenly occurred to me that their is a big hoe here, if you want to be pedantic…step parents to get crb checked do they?? once l thought of it…l couldnt shake it outa my head…l’m not suggesting your ex’s bint is dodgey in that way….but it makes you think doesnt it…or perhaps l’m going a bit mad myself..?
February 8th, 2010 at 7:48 pm
Shit. Hadn’t thought of that – everybody else is getting CRB checked why not step parents? V G point. Not sure where to take that though – imagine how bad that would go down…..Lx
February 8th, 2010 at 5:43 pm
sis man. soooooooooooo glad you aren’t in that…in a way. it just makes me feel sad all round. love ya darlin’ xxxxxxx j
February 8th, 2010 at 7:00 pm
I have been an utter child today. Can’t say I feel erm, bloody great but reading your post, and that you’d sit upstairs (like I would) you’ve taken the edge off how bloody awful I feel, so thanks x
February 8th, 2010 at 7:22 pm
Oh dear, oh dear … what a b***s up! They have children together, they may hate each other’s guts, but they must talk, if only on the ‘phone.
Keep them at arm’s length and make sure the children are never put on the spot like that again.
Won’t rabbit on any more as I seem to be dyslexic this evening!
February 8th, 2010 at 8:12 pm
Idiots. The grown ups. BUT Not you!! And certainly not your children!!
Make your home a place of calm for all of you – sounds like you all need it xx