My ex-husband married Builder Bloke’s ex wife in a very traditional white wedding on Saturday. I’m quite relieved it’s all over. I haven’t seen any photos yet – not sure if I want to. But I’ve heard lots of the gossip. What she wore, who said what. Lots of emotion all round, especially with my children, which I don’t think I was quite prepared for. Not ready to write about it all yet. All still very raw.
SO, instead I will tell you about my own “not” wedding party coupled with a BBQ for my friends who are back for a brief holiday from Australia.
We all had such a lovely time and I want to make an enormous public thank you to my fantastic brothers and their wives and all my lovely friends who did so much to make it all feel very special. They made mohitos, pimms, lit fireworks, put up bunting, brought cakes, bought gas, ice, general stuff, more drinks, danced about and generally helped me get through a difficult but positive and very happy day. Close friends who also know my Oz friend came too – so was very small and intimate.
It was completely right that Builder Bloke was with me – after all we’ve been through, it was important that we were together whilst our respective partners tied the knot. Bizarrely, I got my first ever text from his ex – who shall now be known as Wife No. 2 – but I’ll talk about that another time too because disappointingly it didn’t say anything like “your children were wonderful and I hope we can be friends”…..it was a rude rant. Which is not a good start.
Here are a few pictures of our evening – can’t think why but most of them are too blurry to show you:-
Separate “His” and “Hers” “Not” Wedding Cakes – one of Stig from Top Gear and the Other of a ballet dancer:-
and at the end when they were merged:-
The remaining hard core dancers at the end:-
My daughter’s beautiful cupcakes which we saved till the next morning:-
Thank you thank you thank you thank you……..
July 5th, 2010 at 5:53 pm
Ah, the drink is a terrible thing! The party sounds like the excellent antidote to the wedding, your all obviously had a great time.
Hope the raw edges heal soon. x
July 5th, 2010 at 6:34 pm
was it your b day too!? mine tommorrow….nobody’s remembered because i forgot to remind them…feh. glad you had such a great evening all things considered…and you look beautiful…and TANNED!? xxx j
July 5th, 2010 at 7:14 pm
glad to know you were with Bb and friends….
it is veyr painful hearing about festivities when you are no longer considered family..my MIL 88th birthday party yesterday and my kids went of course…my daughter texted me…EVERYONE is here!!!
er no they are not….
it’ll be a few decades before they realise..or even consider me l guess…so painful my stomach is still doing flips now….so l do ‘get it’ lu…
saz x
July 5th, 2010 at 7:49 pm
Lovely, lovely party, I wish I’d been there.
July 5th, 2010 at 9:20 pm
UGH. I have been extremely lucky in that my ex-husband’s new partner is actually very approachable and lovely. I’m so sorry that your experience is so different. I sometimes wonder what goes through the minds of people who make life so difficult for the other players in marriage breakups and split families because in my experience it’s almost always the kids who are affected worst.
I hope you are surrounded with love and comfort x
July 5th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
What a great idea…..I’m making mental notes. ;0S xx
July 5th, 2010 at 10:48 pm
SO glad you had a lovely time. Now trying to work out which one is BB!
BTW, I know you’re my friend and everything so I’m biased, but how rude to send an unpleasant text to someone you don’t even know. Some people have no manners.
July 6th, 2010 at 9:42 am
He’s the one to my left – it’s my brother in the checked shirt ! Lx
July 6th, 2010 at 4:11 am
I expect she will live up to all of our expectations.
She must feel very insecure to be texting the ex on her wedding day. Does she still think you’re a threat?
I really can be such a cow at times. It’s what makes me so loveable.
So glad you enjoyed your day as much as possible, good friends make all the difference.
July 6th, 2010 at 9:41 am
It wasn’t the ex she texted – it was me! Even worse, given she’s not ever texted me before…..Deb can you give me your link to your blog please because I can’t seem to click back to you on your comments. Thanks Lx
July 6th, 2010 at 10:03 am
So pleased you were surrounded with loved ones and that they all pulled in close around you on such a difficult day. Was great to meet you at Cybermummy V x
July 6th, 2010 at 7:20 pm
Thanks Vicky and SO lovely to meet you Lx
July 6th, 2010 at 10:13 am
between showing what brilliant and respected stuff you’ve been up to on your own at the Cybermummy conference and having a party with lots of the nearest and dearest it sounds like you found the best possible way to spend the day.
Wife No 2 sounds completely mad.
July 6th, 2010 at 10:39 am
I still say that she’s just doing it to wind up Builder Bloke. It won’t last.
July 6th, 2010 at 12:53 pm
Hi Just wanted to say you are handling all of this with much dignity well done. and you are more beautiful than i had imagined. no frumpy divorcee which – for some sad reason – i had in my head!!!
July 6th, 2010 at 7:18 pm
aaaah thanks Jay xx
July 6th, 2010 at 12:54 pm
isn’t it terrible that i assumed that. sorry! maybe it’s because now that i am a mum i imagine myself to be frumpy.
July 6th, 2010 at 1:39 pm
Your day looks way more fun. Much love xxxx
July 6th, 2010 at 4:00 pm
So glad you had a lovely party. Friends are real blessings at times like these. That sounds disgustingly Hallmark but is true xx
July 6th, 2010 at 7:16 pm
Thanks darling Lx
July 12th, 2010 at 12:00 am
Your strange! I would like to imagine what my life!