The other day I got a comment from somebody called Erin Kelley who said “you’ve got an amazing blog and you’re blog is the result of a lot of labor on your part, and Total Divorce wanted to recognize you for all your hard work! You’ve been selected as one of our Top 63 Definite Divorce Reads”.
Blimey. I thought to myself. In the Top 63! That is quite an achievement – and thank you very much to whoever put the list together (why 63?).
Anyway I popped over to have a look at the site. The blogs have been divided into different categories, like “Working Through Divorce” and “Advice On Divorce and Relationships” and “Life After Divorce” and so on and I was thinking OMG – which category are they going to have put me in that some poor traumatised person is going to come over to my blog for and expect proper advice!
So, grateful as I am for the award, let me make the following clear to poor traumatised person before you start delving back through my archives for any sensible advice:-
I haven’t been divorced very long and I don’t seem to be doing a very good job of making it look easy/the best thing since sliced bread/vaguely appealing/like you wouldn’t prefer to pull all your toenails out.
This is where I stand today:-
1. Father in hospital
2. Kids away for a wedding with ex husband and ex husband’s new girlfriend
3. I no longer have a boyfriend because ex husband is going out with boyfriend’s ex wife
4. I have a swarm of flies in my kitchen that are all doing little breakdancing impressions thanks to evil spray
5. I am struggling to think of new and interesting ways to fill my time and wondering whether trombone good option
6. AND to top it all I have now had possibly the worst haircut EVER with a fringe (or bangs as they for some bizarre reason call them in the US) that makes me look as if I think I’m 5 -but in reality makes me look 58. Very short and heavy (thats my fringe, not me).
So. Now I can’t go out for months.
Thanks for listening, newly traumatised person, hope you find somebody more useful. GOOD LUCK
September 18th, 2009 at 3:23 am
Well the hair cut proves you have Kept your sense of humour, if not your sanity…
Honestly though, I think you are doing great, far better than I would and far better than those I know in similar situations.
September 18th, 2009 at 6:38 am
soooo not all bad then!! (come on at least you still got your sense of humour!) In the divorce stakes I reckon everybody should have a few horror stories of ex-husbands going out with boyfriends wives, just think of the diner party conversations you will be able to have in years to come – picture it :"oh no, mine was much worse than that; my ex-……" see – there's always an upside X
September 18th, 2009 at 6:43 am
Things can only get better?
I'm off to a wedding tomorrow – come along and we can both enjoy weird men, too much champagne and a touch of romanti cynicism. Sound fun?
September 18th, 2009 at 7:42 am
I've got those flies too! I wonder if they only attack divorced women? Have sprayed them with Tesco kitchen bleach spray to no avail. Hoping if I run out of food they'll starve. Well done on 63!xx
September 18th, 2009 at 8:24 am
I so appreciate your honesty (and humor!) about the struggles. There's a lot of advice and guidance out there. You provide company.
September 18th, 2009 at 2:07 pm
That's SO you! A comedy haircut to cheer up your Dad! Give him a big hug from me. Anyway – you HAVE to go out! We're planning a whole social life around making you feel better! LOL N x AKA anon!
September 18th, 2009 at 7:27 pm
Agh – I had my hair cut yesterday. I went in for a trim and because it was so long since my last visit, she obviously forgot the original cut. She always tells me I have thick hair "for my age":-? and went about with a razor. Result, – not a lot of hair going on below my ears.
Good thing I'm not vain.
September 19th, 2009 at 12:44 am
Plait your bangs and have a good toot on the trombone. Would that make you feel better? Could be a YouTube sensation?
September 19th, 2009 at 12:31 pm
Huge congratulations on the acolade! Well deserved!
I hate my fringe but everytime I try and grow it out I go nuts when it starts getting in my eyes and cut it again. Sigh.
At least its good for keeping the flies off….
T xx
September 19th, 2009 at 3:31 pm
Don't think trombone is EVER a good option (unless you hate you neighbours!)
Things will only get better – and other such cliches.
Love your Blog BTW
September 19th, 2009 at 11:59 pm
Hoping the fringe grows out soon
There's an award for you over at mine !
September 20th, 2009 at 1:38 am
Thanks everyone for all your comments -Dulwich Divorcee – lets hope you're wrong and the flies aren't just choosing divorced women – that would be wrong…Muddling Along Mummy thanks for the award but when I went over to collect it I couldn't find it!! Lx